The "M" Word
Hello! I am half way through my third semester of school!! It feels like just yesterday I was starting my first semester of college. If anyone is thinking about taking family relations, I one hundred percent recommend it! Every time we have class, I just love all the discussions we have.
This week we talked about what being engaged means and also what comes with being married. I don't think I could have timed the class more perfectly with what is going on in my life right now.
I am engaged myself, but you probably know that because, lets be honest that's all I talk about. But its something that is so exciting that just happened in my life. We had a really good conversion about the word, "engaged". The main thing that I took out of that is if anyone was to give you advice they would say, " long courtship, and short engagement." It is funny to me that this was talked about in class, because this is exactly what my fiances dad talked to him, when we were first talking about marriage. Now being engaged I would have to one hundred percent agree with them. I give people props who get engaged after 3 months of dating someone. For me personally, I don't feel that I would know them enough to even think about marriage. But there is a saying and it goes, " when you know, you know." I truly believe in that, so I am happy for those who find love so quick.
Now you are probably wondering why I titled the blog the name I gave it. Because nobody told me how scary it was to talk about marriage! When my fiance brought it up to me, I was so nervous! I was like there is no way he just brought that up! We always joked about it, but they were always jokes. But when we had a real conversation about it, I was so nervous! It was something that I had never talked about with someone before. We didn't know where to even start. All we knew was that we were both madly in love and wanted to take it to the next step.
Marriage can be a scary topic to talk about or bring up. What if the other partner is not on the same page and then it is super awkward. Or what if your partner doesn't want to get married, because they don't see a need? One of my best friends has been dating her boyfriend for four years. They have never talked about marriage, because her boyfriend does not believe in it. They already live together, so he doesn't see the need. This has caused some tension in their relationship because all my friend wants is to be married. She wants to be someones wife and not a girlfriend. She wants that level of commitment. So how do you go about this situation? You don't want to come on too strong or pressure them into making a choice they don't want too. My heart is heavy for people who have a similar situation to the one my friend has.
All in all, I am so excited to get married. Like we talked about in class, I know that it is going to be one of the hardest thing, but yet the most rewarding! I have always been taught that picking your spouse is the most important thing you can ever do. I agree with that, because you are with them for the rest of your life. When life gets tough you don't give up, you go through it together. This class just makes me so excited for life. Also excited for all the others that are in the same spot as me!
This week we talked about what being engaged means and also what comes with being married. I don't think I could have timed the class more perfectly with what is going on in my life right now.
I am engaged myself, but you probably know that because, lets be honest that's all I talk about. But its something that is so exciting that just happened in my life. We had a really good conversion about the word, "engaged". The main thing that I took out of that is if anyone was to give you advice they would say, " long courtship, and short engagement." It is funny to me that this was talked about in class, because this is exactly what my fiances dad talked to him, when we were first talking about marriage. Now being engaged I would have to one hundred percent agree with them. I give people props who get engaged after 3 months of dating someone. For me personally, I don't feel that I would know them enough to even think about marriage. But there is a saying and it goes, " when you know, you know." I truly believe in that, so I am happy for those who find love so quick.
Now you are probably wondering why I titled the blog the name I gave it. Because nobody told me how scary it was to talk about marriage! When my fiance brought it up to me, I was so nervous! I was like there is no way he just brought that up! We always joked about it, but they were always jokes. But when we had a real conversation about it, I was so nervous! It was something that I had never talked about with someone before. We didn't know where to even start. All we knew was that we were both madly in love and wanted to take it to the next step.
Marriage can be a scary topic to talk about or bring up. What if the other partner is not on the same page and then it is super awkward. Or what if your partner doesn't want to get married, because they don't see a need? One of my best friends has been dating her boyfriend for four years. They have never talked about marriage, because her boyfriend does not believe in it. They already live together, so he doesn't see the need. This has caused some tension in their relationship because all my friend wants is to be married. She wants to be someones wife and not a girlfriend. She wants that level of commitment. So how do you go about this situation? You don't want to come on too strong or pressure them into making a choice they don't want too. My heart is heavy for people who have a similar situation to the one my friend has.
All in all, I am so excited to get married. Like we talked about in class, I know that it is going to be one of the hardest thing, but yet the most rewarding! I have always been taught that picking your spouse is the most important thing you can ever do. I agree with that, because you are with them for the rest of your life. When life gets tough you don't give up, you go through it together. This class just makes me so excited for life. Also excited for all the others that are in the same spot as me!
Such a cute engagement picture!!
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