Communication is key

    Oh yeah!!! Another fantastic week! I am in the middle of wedding planning, and oh my goodness is that stressful! But also super duper exciting! One thing that makes things a little harder is that my fiance is in Oregon right now as I type this blog out. He is working there for the summer! so right now we have about a thousand miles between us. So the most important thing when planning a wedding while doing long distance is COMMUNICATION, and how crazy is that, because that's exactly what I am going to be talking about this week!

    Communication is key! It is the key to every healthy relationship. We are not just talking about the relationship between you and your spouse, we are talking about everything: boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, best friend, boss, manager, parents, siblings. This list could really go on and on. If there is no communication in any of those people I listed then the relationship itself will fall out. It will completely shatter.

    Now the thing about communication, it has to be a two way thing. Let me repeat myself so you make sure you read that right, it has to be a TWO WAY thing. If one is slacking the same effect that happens when there is no communication will start to occur. In a relationship you can not have one person doing all the work, all the talking, then that relationship will definitely feel one sided. If anyone has experience with dealing with a one sided relationship, they know how much heart it brings.

    The importance of communication in a marriage is extremely important. You and your spouse are one, you both compliment each other in different ways, but never go against what the other says. One analogy that I love to use when talking about communication is, imagine you are talking to someone who is very important to you, and you have the most exciting news to tell them. But, they are wearing sound proof headphones, so they can see you and are looking at you, but they can not hear a word you are saying. So you are doing everything in your power to be able to get them to understand the message you have. You put so much work into trying to get them to understand and they never figure it out. Now imagine how frustrated that makes you feel. You now are no longer excited about this news because the one you want to tell it to the most cant hear you. This happens a lot in relationships. Sometimes people wear these invisible headphones, and they don't listen to what is being said. So those same feelings of frustration keep happening. Now this is something that everyone wants to avoid, but sometimes it is super hard too. We as humans are very very stubborn and prideful. So we sometimes put on those headphones out of spite. We sometimes don't even realize it, but the other person recognizes it right away. 

    One thing that makes me super upset is when I talk but I feel like I am not being heard. I don't know if anyone else has had this same thing happen to them. But it is the worst thing. We all want to be heard, we all want people to listen to us. We want to feel as what we are saying is important. Especially if that something is super important to you. 

    I know for me I work on communication every single day. I will be the first to say being in a long distance engagement is the hardest thing ever. This is a crucial time to know how important communication is. We both want to be heard, because we are planning a wedding for the both of us. In communication we cant have this fixed way of thinking, " Its my way of the highway." Because right off the bat, you are already not wanting to take anything from anyone.

    I challenge all of you to find one relationship you have and to work on communication between the two of you and see the difference it makes when you take the time and listen!