Every Families Different
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I hope everyone had a great week! I know I did! I spent a lot of it out in the sun with my family. This weeks lesson was so interesting for me. I always knew the importance of gender roles in the family. But I did not realize the stress and outcome it has.
Let try and explain what that means. When I say stress and outcome, I don't mean the physical stress that you can see on the outside. These are all inside things we are dealing with. If you think about it; What is the difference between just growing up with a mom verse just growing up with a dad. The roles of a mother is to be the one who takes care of the children; the nurturer. When you think of a mom you think of someone who has been there for you since day one. She is the one getting all the kids ready for school, making lunch, dinner, and doing laundry. Moms are the ones who keep everything in order. Now imagine in your life, if this was taken out. I know there are many cases where people do not grow up with moms but, just imagine not having this if you do. What is your first thought? Because mine is, that everything would fall apart.
Now lets talk about the roles of a father. The one who is the provider, the protector. He is the one that makes sure the family is safe from everything. Even the small things like when your kids wake up in the middle because of a bad dream. Now again like I said earlier think if you did not have this in your life. This one is a little bit easier for me to imagine because I was not raised with a father in the house. I have seen first hand how my life has been impacted.
There are so many people in this world that have the same situation as me. Let me tell you it was not easy. Growing up without a father in the home was so hard. I was comparing myself to all these "perfect" families I saw and thought man what it would be like to have that in my life. Now that I am much older, I am so grateful for this experience it has made me grow in so many ways. I was able to see first hand the impact that it has on the children and even the other parent. These times were defiantly not easy on anyone. But the one thing that got us through it and to see the growth and happiness out of it was, we had each other and we have our Father in Heaven.
In class I asked a question and it was, " When you do not have that father figure growing up, do people tend to look for it in other people?" This question brought up a great discussion. For me it was very personal because in my life I was the one seeking a father figure out of people who I trusted. Like an example would be my bishop or my uncle. These are very important men in my life and I have always looked up to them and told myself that I wanted to marry someone just like them.
This week was such an eye opener because it really made me think about how important it is to have both roles in your children's life. They role of a father and mother just go hand in hand so perfectly. This is something that I strive for so much, and now that I have seen the comparison talked about in class it just makes it that much more important.
I hope everyone had a great week! I know I did! I spent a lot of it out in the sun with my family. This weeks lesson was so interesting for me. I always knew the importance of gender roles in the family. But I did not realize the stress and outcome it has.
Let try and explain what that means. When I say stress and outcome, I don't mean the physical stress that you can see on the outside. These are all inside things we are dealing with. If you think about it; What is the difference between just growing up with a mom verse just growing up with a dad. The roles of a mother is to be the one who takes care of the children; the nurturer. When you think of a mom you think of someone who has been there for you since day one. She is the one getting all the kids ready for school, making lunch, dinner, and doing laundry. Moms are the ones who keep everything in order. Now imagine in your life, if this was taken out. I know there are many cases where people do not grow up with moms but, just imagine not having this if you do. What is your first thought? Because mine is, that everything would fall apart.
Now lets talk about the roles of a father. The one who is the provider, the protector. He is the one that makes sure the family is safe from everything. Even the small things like when your kids wake up in the middle because of a bad dream. Now again like I said earlier think if you did not have this in your life. This one is a little bit easier for me to imagine because I was not raised with a father in the house. I have seen first hand how my life has been impacted.
There are so many people in this world that have the same situation as me. Let me tell you it was not easy. Growing up without a father in the home was so hard. I was comparing myself to all these "perfect" families I saw and thought man what it would be like to have that in my life. Now that I am much older, I am so grateful for this experience it has made me grow in so many ways. I was able to see first hand the impact that it has on the children and even the other parent. These times were defiantly not easy on anyone. But the one thing that got us through it and to see the growth and happiness out of it was, we had each other and we have our Father in Heaven.
In class I asked a question and it was, " When you do not have that father figure growing up, do people tend to look for it in other people?" This question brought up a great discussion. For me it was very personal because in my life I was the one seeking a father figure out of people who I trusted. Like an example would be my bishop or my uncle. These are very important men in my life and I have always looked up to them and told myself that I wanted to marry someone just like them.
This week was such an eye opener because it really made me think about how important it is to have both roles in your children's life. They role of a father and mother just go hand in hand so perfectly. This is something that I strive for so much, and now that I have seen the comparison talked about in class it just makes it that much more important.
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